Personal Development Answers
When you are in search of personal
development, it is natural to read books, watch videos, try to find gurus to
follow, put a lot of focus on learning more to add to your happiness and
reduce any suffering. We look everywhere for the answer to questions like
the meaning and purpose of our life and how to be happy. This is normal and
There is, however, some words of wisdom that you might want to consider. And
here it is: There is no Answer to Life!
We run around trying to find the answer to life. We believe that if we can
just find the answer, we'll be happy and whole and complete. We'll be rich
and successful and loved. Let's say we find an answer, like Buddha's
"grasping is the cause of all suffering." Then we work hard to kill desire
It is then human nature to make detachment and non-grasping the answer to
all life's problems. But it doesn't work in that way. They are the not the
entire answer to life. There are just partial answers.
Not understanding this, you can spend months trying to overcome desire and
grasping within yourself. You will grasp after not grasping! Then, when you
finally figure out that that doesn't work, you will give that up. "I guess
that Buddha didn't have the answer after all..." Then you will start looking
all around for another answer.
This pattern occurs over and over in our lives. We think love is the answer.
Or spirituality. Or financial success. Then we work hard to have more love
or holiness or money in our lives. Only to find it doesn't end up making us
live happily ever after.
Here's the short of it. Any answer you find to make your life better can
only be partial. It cant be the complete answer. Loving may be a great
answer for you, for a while. So sure, work on being more loving. But don't
try to make love the answer to life. Don't burden love with your hopes and
needs to feel better about yourself.
Understand that any answers you find to living a successful and happy life
will only be partial and temporary. What you can do that is powerful is
begin to let go of needing an Answer. Get more comfortable not having
answers. Live more into the question. Obviously, this is a deep subject, but
just this can be a great start.
Notice how much you want there to be AN
ANSWER to the challenges of life. Notice how much you want solutions
that take care of as many problems as possible.
See if you can give up needing an answer so
much. Try it out for a few days.